Maybe you find yourself overanalyzing every text, every interaction, and every slight change in tone, convinced that something is wrong even when nothing is. You walk on eggshells in relationships, afraid of being too much or asking for what you need. Or maybe, when things start to feel too close, you pull away, shut down, or find yourself nitpicking the relationship—not because you don’t care, but because too much emotional closeness feels overwhelming.

You want connection, but something always gets in the way. You either chase after it, fearing it will disappear—or you keep it at arm’s length, afraid of losing yourself in it.

The cycle is exhausting, leaving you questioning whether real, healthy love even exists for you. But you’re not “bad at relationships,” and you’re certainly not “too much” or “too distant.” What you’re experiencing is the replaying of old attachment wounds, pulling you into familiar patterns—even when they hurt.

You’re tired of struggling with:

• Constantly worrying that people will leave—or sabotaging the relationship before you get hurt.

• Attracting emotionally unavailable partners—or becoming emotionally unavailable yourself.

• Feeling exhausted by modern dating and the constant swiping but never finding anything meaningful.

• Staying in unsatisfying or unhealthy relationships out of fear of being alone—or avoiding relationships altogether to maintain control.

You’re not broken. You may have learned to chase closeness out of fear of loss—or prioritize self-reliance over emotional vulnerability. But a real connection doesn’t have to feel so hard.